It's 2 a.m. There's a ring on the phone, a sound you've learnt to dread. It's the recovery agent, again.

Unless you have been at the receiving end, it's tough to imagine how stressful a single phone call can be. "It was the worst experience of my life," says BPO employee Sinith Mechery, 25. "Due to some unavoidable circumstances I defaulted on a few loan repayments," he says.

A recovery agent began calling him and rudely demanded that he make an immediate payment. Mechery just hung up on him. "But he called at least 35-40 times that day and his language was abusive. I'd never had an issue with my banks prior to this, but this incident has definitely left a bad taste in my mouth," he says.

Mechery is lucky. In a case that shocked the nation, ICICI Bank [Get Quote] customer and Mumbai resident Prakash Sarvankar, 38, who had taken a Rs 50,000 personal loan, committed suicide last year, holding a recovery agent responsible for his death in his suicide note.

Three sides of the story. The main characters in a recovery story are the borrower, the lender and the recovery agent. While it's easy to sympathise with the harassed individual, banks, too, have reasons for outsourcing debt recovery.

 Says Axis Bank chairman and CEO P J Nayak: "Axis Bank has an in-house collection department; we also employ reputed third-party collection agencies that comply with non-aggressive methods."

An agent's job, in-house or third-party, is to facilitate the process of recovery. If the borrower doesn't want to deal with a recovery agent, he can approach the bank for direct negotiations.

"If there are genuine reasons holding up repayment, we can work with it. For example, credit cards dues can be easily converted to an EMI, which is part payment, instead of the total outstanding due," says Nayak.

Most banks are willing to make adjustments if the reasons for default are genuine. An HDFC Bank [Get Quote] spokesperson says that if there is a real problem, the bank works out things as per its policy.

Recovery agents work on a commission basis and are, therefore, highly motivated to show efficiency.

Arun Saxena, president, International Consumer Rights Protection Council says, "Debt recovery agents often treat borrowers in unacceptable, illegal ways. Customers should be careful about giving any money to agents; payments should be made against a proper receipt. One can even approach the National Human Rights Commission if need be."

The important thing is to not get intimidated (see Do's and Don'ts.) Help from the top. To protect the interests of both the borrower and the creditor in the debt recovery process, the Reserve Bank of India [Get Quote] has issued guidelines that a recovery agent and the bank that employs him have to honour (see The RBI's Recovery Rules).

Based on these guidelines, earlier this month, the Supreme Court reiterated that banks cannot deploy goons for recovering loans from defaulters.

"The creditors have the right to recover their dues, but there is a right way to so. Laws have to be followed, which is are not necessarily followed by many creditors," says Mumbai-based high court lawyer Rohini Pandit.

The central bank has said it may ban a bank from engaging recovery agents in a particular area, either jurisdictional or functional, for a limited period.

In case of persistent breach of its guidelines, the RBI may extend the period of the ban or the area of ban.

Better safe than sorry. All said and done, a recovery agent will come into the picture only because you slipped up.

The reasons could be many: overspending, overborrowing, a personal crisis (sickness, loss of employment), or pure bad luck (a loan repayment cheque lost in the post). At the end of the day you need to take responsibility for financial indiscipline.

Lending a helping hand for this are a number of financial counselling centres that offer free service to those caught in the debt trap (see Overspenders Anonymous).

Many banks alert you on payments due via SMS or email. Autopay (or direct debit) is also an easy way to avoid oversight on loan repayment cheques.

Most importantly, of course, never borrow more than you can comfortably repay. It's basic common sense, but it's rapidly becoming uncommon.